Love.

Sappiest and longest post ever. 

Ever been in love? Right! Who knows!? We don't unless we are in love. Not the kind of love that we feel for a person for a bit till something happens and that's that. No love is when you say, 5 years later, you still just want to be with that person, the hardest part about live is that it isn't true unless it is mutual. 

Love has many shapes and forms, we never know it's real until it hAppens, and thatbisbwhybthebmost important thing to remember about love is remembering to love or care about a person like you never have before :) 

When you get involved with someone and you are cautious or take lessons from a previous relationship, you are recreating that previous failed relationship, and thusly setting your new relationship up for disaster. I know it iS a grey area. We are supposed to learn from mistakes, and I will be the first to say I have made a lot do mistakes, one of the best things I have ever done though, just go into a relationship with a fresh slate. I have tried to be a bit cautious on new relationships in the past and the girl would always say, "well I'm not your ex, I wouldn't do that!" And it's true, I just needed to see it for myself and learn the hard way I guess. But ya honestly, all people need to learn to love, no one just loves. Regardless of what popular belief may be, there will always be someone out there for you, sure, there could be soulmates out there, that one person you click best with; that person that is the other half to the soul's true form #thestoryoflove but there will always be someone who can make you happy if uo let them. When you have your heart broken, don't be bitter, think of it as a chance to find out what you are really looking for in someone, or what you need to work on to make yourself everything you can be.

In contest to popular belief, someone's it is important to change ourselves for people. I mean, we shouldn't make it feel like work, because if we really like the person, we could make the change with no problem. I'm not saying superficial things or silly things like your favourite colour are things we should be changing, but if you are the mind of guy or girl who enjoys an ego boost by flirting with the opposite sex, maybe something To work on, granted some people say love is not jealous, but I mean my personal belief is, why waste your time trying to make others think you are sexy, you trying to make yourself attractive to attract the one you will forever care about, but if you truly have that person, why work for the approval of others? I have been on both ends of this and it sucks both ways cause you learn quickly, something's gotta give. And being single, you have a lot of time to reflect and learn from mistakes, don't regret but acknowledge, see next post for more on regrets :p

Every person, I don't care how bitter or pessimistic you are, every person has a yearning to belong, maybe not everyday of the week, but we are social creatures, look at tom hanks on castaway, thatbisbtotally feasible, Wilson is a shining example of people's yearning to fit in with society. The human psyche is much like an orca's pYche. Naturally social beings, our mammalian brains are aimilar on the sense that the social/emotional parts of the brain are a bit larger than the others. 

Be open and aware, you never know when you will be taking a picture of someone for them on Halloween and then randomly running into them at a bar you never try to meet people at and end up on a coffee date with them that turned into dinner. #theonethatgotaway 

Or even a girl from class that you run into and help study for a class that actually turned into short yet memorable fling that ended just cause fear that things were moving fast. #hoplessromantic 

You never know when you will meet someone you didn't think you would end up engaged to because the first contact was extremely awkward for you, but two years later, you are engaged and thinking about kids, don't lie bro, I know you are, say what you will but she got you thinking! #congratulations

Or! Or of you meet someone who was moving away for school, and ya it's 3 hours or so away but you can't make it and it's such a commitment still in highschool after dating for only 6 months.   After being on and off for a bit, you end up living together and making it work through random meets and figuring of your future, you end up so far from home but starting a life with the person that you have been through hell and back with! #truelove

Or when you end up like jack and Jessie, I'm so calling you buggers out, of everyone I know, all the couples between the one above this paragraph and you, I have learned and seen so much that applies everywhere in life,  #proud #envious not of either of you but of what you were able to find with another person. 

Stay positive folks and love like you never loved before, don't put the word of a pedostoool but don't throw it around, mean it and appreciate it.

Cheers! 

C.B.

Over 25 years, through hell and back, sometimes I wonder how anyone could, but you are always there for each other, no matter what. Xoxoxo thanks mom and dad