To this lesson I must say there is someone who I learned from and what I will say may come off as snarky because this person upsets me in very small ways and is just one of those people who just naturally come off as fake (to me at least).
Without saying names or mentioning particular bias events-I will give my extremely honest and fair observations of an individual and how they can be successfully renowned or known.
1) Be loud-if you aren't loud, simply no one will hear you. The trick to being loud and not hated is really, just kill people with kindness. If you feel you can be kind and never stop giving everything you have including time and energy to everyone who needs it or people who you think need it, you can't be loud and unconditionally loved.
2) Be positive-I am not a negative person but I am also not an optimist. so much of my life is earned and not given; who knows maybe I wouldn't be as much of a grouch as I feel if life had dealt something a little different back in the day, but regardless I love my life now and I have responsibilities as well as other things on the go for myself because this is my life-sorry self justification rants...but the idea is if you are not the MOST positive person in the population or flippy headed individual with a knack for nodding along with the masses...move on...
3) Have a scapegoat-we ALL need to do things we don't want to and at some point or another we need to or will accidentally do something to someone (unintentionally or not) and they won't like it-with that being said, you need a fall person...heh, ya I have been the fall person for this individual before and oh how I regret it...fml. Never allow someone to talk you into being a fall person.
4) Be the Face-this couples with being loud, if people don't see you, they can't hear you. Once people become accustom to who you are without hearing your voice, then you can be loud without being the face. but hey, people need to see you! Especially see you doing whatever it is you are trying to promote. Again though-you need to be careful, if you can't make people love you unconditionally, then you will not succeed in this because people will get bored with you.
Ultimately it comes down to this, it takes a really unique individual to be this successful and you know what there will be benefits and satisfactions to this type of person-but never change who you are just because...you need to want it.
If I am going to be honest, I think the reason I feel so much resentment towards this individual is because they took so much of what I did or suggested and basically forced themselves upon my life. There was no "hey..." it was more of a "this is happening..." and sure enough they had a scapegoat try to get more from me than I allowed them to take.
Great human being nonetheless-I would be too though I think if I had nothing else to work towards in life...
-CB
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