I want to clear up some political corrections before I get started.
Yes men and women can work hard and with their hands.
Yes working with your hands can constitute anything you snowing your hands but for the purpose of this entry I'm talking about physically demanding labour, no pencil pushing :p and bite me if you are gonna be a whiner because I'm in teaching so yes this applies to me in certain ways and other ways not, so no, I'm not trying to talk down individuals who just don't work physically labourous jobs.
Anyways, so to get started. When you shake someone's hand, there are a series of judgments made immediately.
1. Grip, oh I'm sorry when I shake your hand does it hurt? then learn how to shake a frikin hand, tells a lot about who you are.
2. Looking in the eyes. Hey quit looking everywhere else but my eyes I want to see who it is I'm meeting...you hiding sonething or you just scared bro?
3. 2 shakes for a social meeting, 1 quick jolt of it's an on the job introduction. Times awastin and this job has deadline vs. The social handshake where that may be the only chance you get to talk to that person during the given time so you look them in the eye and state who you are etc.
These are three simple and common sense reasons why you need to work on your handshake if you haven't yet.
The handshake is just some background idea as to the bigger picture, rough hands. Who has rough hands? Well duh, people who use them for strenuous activity. Lawyers and doctors will not have overly disproportionate or rough hands because they do many other things, like using their minds.
It's no secret that rough hands don't feel the nicest, they have different ways to treat that but I am sure you won't unless it is a legit concern of yours. Ladies always compliment soft hands because they feel nice but psychologically, people are built to find certain things attractive even when they are unaware of it.
Since the dawn of primate and other beings who sole purpose on earth in their eyes is to reproduce and continue their kin, certain attributes were hard wired into our brains to be found attractive.
Men (straight ones obviously, unless the same thing applies differently between more feminine men and more masculin men, as it does between men and women)
1. Birth giving hips on ladies, meaning she has the ability to give birth without complication
2. Healthy weight, so her body is able to sustain life within it
3. Youth, the younger she is after being able to ovulate, the more prone she seems to pregnancy
Female
1. Healthy and strong (muscular) as well as rigid looking men...taller too...damn.
2. Ability to provide resource and take care of her and her future child
Rough hands promote some of these attributes and I feel like at one point or another people need to that "rough hands" feeling, not by others, but by having it themselves. It is a character building attribute.
I'll end with a story I'll never forget. My nonno told me he met a man who claimed he worked a lot, as a living he claimed he was a construction worker. It was the dead of winter. Minus forty something and this guy had to go to work in it, he worked the whole week and came to visit my nonno. When my nonno who is so well rounded in the areas of construction shook his hand. He said to the guy "my god, how are your hands so soft? You been working construction in the dead of winter all season long!?" The man made up some bs and long story short, he was lying the whole time, this man was a fraud and my nonno straight up called him out on it because of something as simple as a handshake.
Work on it and remember boys. Just cause she is cute, and dainty doesn't mean you can't give her a handshake, just be polite and don't break her hand, just let her know you are a hard working man and you got what you know she is looking for ;)
Cheers!
CB
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